We're out together. It's a nice, bright
and sunny day. Maybe we're shopping or just on a quiet drive. My wife
starts talking about her hobbies or her latest favorite show on Hulu.
I can hear her fine. I listen. I just don't STARE INTO HER EYES!
I can repeat,
nearly word-for-word, what she has said to me in the past few
minutes. This irritates my wife to no end. If I don't look her in
the eyes when she's talking, she says I'm not really listening to
her. I am, though!
Then
she often starts what I call her feedback
rant. If I'm...
- Not looking her in the eye.
- Not replying to everything she says.
- Not agreeing with her.
- Not nodding my head along with her.
- Not doing something else she thinks I should be doing.
Then I'm not
actually listening to her.
Maybe
this is a guy thing, or maybe it's just me. I'm not really sure. All
I know is that I can multitask. I'm good at it. I do
hear what you're saying, dear. Really. If I have nothing to say about
it, that doesn't mean I don't care.
…
Okay, so most of
the time, it does.
...
Just
like she's not into the movies I like, the stories I read, or the
YouTube videos I watch; I'm not INTO
Arts & Crafts. I don't care that Adrian cheated on Paul! No, that
lady didn't cut you off; she was 30 feet away!
Still, I work at Active Listening, now. I try (really, I do) to
always acknowledge her when she's speaking. If it saves me from
another long-winded rant, I'm all for it. I may like poking the
bear every once and a while, but even I know when to back off.
Okay,
dudes, take my advice: If your wife likes things that you don't;
keep
it to yourself.
Say, 'Yes, dear.',
'No, dear.', nod your head, and laugh at the appropriate time. And,
remember, her eyes are about a foot up from where you're looking.
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